Anger management is the process of learning how to recognize signs that you’re becoming angry. And also taking steps to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way.
Anger management doesn’t try to stop you from feeling anger or encourage you to keep it in. Anger is a healthy and normal emotion when you know how to express it well.
You can take anger management classes. Or you can even learn the skills on your own, with the help of books, watching an anger management movie or other resources.
For many people, seeing a mental health professional or even taking an anger management class is often the most effective approach.
Why It’s Done
Anger management is done to helps you recognize frustrations on time. It also helps you in resolving them in a way that allows you to express your needs and also keeps you calm and in control.
Here are some signs that show you need help controlling your anger:
- Threats of violence against people or property.
- A regular feeling that you have to hold in your anger.
- Depression or anxiety about anger that makes you withdraws.
- A constant irritated, cynical, critical, impatient, or hostile feeling.
- Physical violence. Which include starting a fight or hitting your partner or children.
- Frequent arguments with your co-worker, partner and also children which escalate frustrations.
- Frightening behaviour or an out-of-control. Such as driving recklessly or even breaking things.
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How To Prepare
They are lots of books and websites that offer information on ways to manage anger. If learning the skills on your own doesn’t help you stay calm and in control, you may benefit when you see a mental health professional. Or by taking anger management classes.
It may take you time find an anger management program or a counsellor who specializes in anger management and also other resources. You can start your research in some of these places:
- You can search online for resources such as support groups, blogs or even books.
- Ask your mental health provider or primary care doctor for a counsellor or a referral to a program.
- You can also ask someone who finished a program.
- Ask someone who took other steps to manage anger.
- Check out your local library for anger management movies, books or other resources.
- Check with your church or employee assistance program (EAP).
Starting Anger Management
When you begin working on anger management, start by identifying your triggers and also the emotional and physical signs which occur when you start to get angry.
Also take note and make a list of:
- Emotional signs that your anger is rising. Such as the feeling you’re keeping in what you really want to say or feeling that you want to yell at someone.
- Physical signs that your feelings of anger are on the rise. Such as driving too fast or clenching your jaw.
- Stressors that often triggers or make your anger worse. Such as traffic issues, frustration with a partner or child, problems with a co-worker or financial stress.
What To Expect
Counselling for anger management or anger management classes is done one-on-one or in a group. It can also be done with your child, partner or someone else.
The number of sessions, length, and setting, vary. And also depends on your needs, the program or counsellor. Anger management classes or counseling can be brief or lasting for weeks or months.
Counselling focuses on learning some skills and also ways of thinking so you can cope with anger and stress. If you have other mental health issues like anxiety, addiction or depression, you will need to work on them for anger management methods to be effective.
The reasons for anger management classes and counseling is to teach you to:
- Communicate well to reduce anger and also resolve conflicts.
- Identify situations that may set you off and also respond in nonaggressive ways before you get angry.
- Calm yourself down when you start to feel angry.
- Learn specific skills to use in situations that may trigger your anger.
- Know when you aren’t thinking reasonably about a situation, and make right your thinking.
- Express your feelings and needs positively in situations that make you feel angry.
- Learn to redirect your energy to resolving problems instead of using the energy to be angry.
When you improve your ability to manage anger, it has several benefits. You feel more in control, and when life’s challenges turn up the heat, you’ll be able to handle them.
Knowing how to express yourself positively means that you won’t feel the frustration of keeping in your anger to avoid offending anyone.
Anger management classes help you to:
- Maintain your health better. When you manage your anger well, every stress and health problems like a headache, hypertension, digestive issues, difficulty in sleeping that comes with anger will be prevented.
- Communicate your needs better.
- Avoid psychological and social problems linked to anger. Like stress, depression, anxiety, troubled relationships and problems at work.
- Make use of your frustration to get things done.
- Avoid addictive escapes. Like turning to drugs, food or alcohol to dull anger.